Sermon Notes

Marriage Matters: P.1 (9.30.18)

By October 1, 2018 April 12th, 2021 No Comments

Acts 20:25-28
And now, behold, I know that ye all, among whom I have gone preaching the kingdom of God, shall see my face no more. Wherefore I take you to record this day, that I am pure from the blood of all men . For I have not shunned to declare unto you all the counsel of God.  Take heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock, over the which the Holy Ghost hath made you overseers, to feed the church of God, which he hath purchased with his own blood.

Leviticus 17:11 says that the life of the flesh is in the blood. Paul was saying that he had preached them the gospel that had the ability to save their souls, so their lives were no longer on his hands. It was up to them to believe on the message of Jesus.

Matthew 6:10 
Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.

You can have as much of the Kingdom of God as you want in your life. Its all in how much of your life you’re willing to surrender to Him.

Where you don’t have dominion your will cannot be done. Where you don’t give God dominion, His will cannot be done.

We can’t pick and choose which parts of God’s counsel we want to receive. We should receive all of the counsel of God. We have to believe what God says about earthly things if we are going to be able to believe what He says about heavenly things.

John 5:46
For had ye believed Moses, ye would have believed me: for he wrote of me. But if ye believe not his writings, how shall ye believe my words?

John 3:12
If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you of heavenly things?

Matthew 19:3-6
The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Marriage is a yoke. (Example pictured.)


When you become married, you are supernaturally joined together as one. If you try to live with a mindset of two , your marriage will fail. You have to go from the “me” mindset, to the “we” mindset. Because whatever one does will absolutely affect the other.

Do not see yourselves as individuals. See the union; because you are one. This means you have to fight for and sacrifice to invest in the “we”, even if it means overlooking the “me”.

The “we” must take priority over the “me”.

Genesis 2:21-25
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

In marriage, two become one. Trying to live separate in any area will be painful because you’re no longer two, but one.

Because of the judgment associated with the fall of man, our spouse has different needs than us.

It’s the man’s responsibility to lead and bear the weight of the home spiritually, financially, etc. Many times, in his mind, as long as he’s working, he’s meeting his wife’s needs. But he must be sympathetic to the fact that her struggle and needs are different from his own. A woman’s burden is for her children. Spouses have different needs, but they must remember that each person’s struggles, though they be different, are real to them.

Because of the yoke, the wife now bears the burden of her husband, and the husband bears the burden of his wife.

Don’t try to meet your spouses needs based on what you need, because your needs are different. The judgment God pronounced in the garden of Eden still stands to this day. Because of that, men and women carry different burdens and needs. Be sensitive to the fact that their needs are different from yours, and make an investment to meet them, because that makes a better “we”. When you meet your spouses needs, you’re actually meeting your own, because you are one.

Malachi 2:14-15
Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.