And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan; And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there. The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
This question was asked of Jesus right after Matthew 18, where He was dealing with relationships and forgiveness.
Woman was created to resolve something that God said was not good. She was the apex of His creation.
All men and women are made in the image of God. But when God saw man alone, He said it wasn’t good. Therefore, He made woman (aka, man with a womb) and brought her to Adam. This would be the only time woman would be brought to the man. From then on, it became the man’s responsibility to pursue woman.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
“Leaving” = a man graduating from his mother and father. It means a man has gleaned all he needs from his parents and their house, and he is ready to build a home of his own that he can then bring a wife to… which all must be in order before “cleaving“.
The first woman was taken from man, but every other human after that would come from woman.
God made woman from Adam’s side because she is his equal. She was designed to be beside Adam- not above or beneath him.
God designed woman to require pursuit.
Woman reveals God’s character in that she was made to be pursued. When she is pursued, there is a greater unfolding of who she is. That is reflective of how God desires us to be in constant pursuit of Him and His heart.
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
It is the man’s responsibility to find the woman, not the other way around. It is also the man’s responsibility to work and to provide for his wife and family. It is not the woman’s burden.
Satan came to woman in the garden because there was something in her that he was threatened by.
Satan lost his light as light bearer when he fell from heaven. That made him envious of woman, who bore the glory of God.
What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him?
When there was a certain angel (satan) who inquired of God about why He had given His glory to man, it was motivated by envy.
Sometimes we’ll get attacked because the enemy hates that we are the image-bearers of God. We have to stop thinking that attacks come on us because we did something wrong. The enemy attacks when he is threatened and intimidated…. not because we did something wrong.
Woman was made to be attractive to man. But after the fall of man, she was blamed by Adam. To this day, it is part of sin’s curse for the woman to feel that if she is not being pursued, there is something wrong with her.
Daddies, if you don’t pursue your daughters and seek to build them up, there will come a day when they will go out and become the pursuers in order to get the attention they didn’t get from you.
Husbands, pursue your wives daily. And don’t let your sons blame their mother for things. It’s not the momma’s fault that the homework didn’t get done, or the clothes weren’t washed. As a result of the fall, it is in the heart of man to blame woman. Sons need to be taught to be responsible and not to blame their moms. Fathers, don’t allow this.
Men are built to work and to provide. There is nothing wrong with having increase on the mind. Its when it leads to comparison and competition that it becomes a problem. The enemy will try to use success, or lack of success, to devalue a man.
Women are made for relationship; to connect and communicate. Because of this, the enemy uses relationships, and the lack of value in them, to try and destroy women. Satan will attack and try to break down relationships in order to make a woman feel like she is not valuable. One of woman’s greatest fear is rejection.
Women want to be pursued because God created them that way. It reveals part of who He is. He wants to be pursued by us.
Eve was made to be pursued. So when Adam blamed her on the day of judgment, the idea was planted in the heart of woman that, “if things fell apart, it must be my fault.”
Men see things different. Daddies and Husbands need to be aware of this. They might be unknowingly devaluing their daughters or wives. For example: if a little girl asks her daddy to spend time with her, and he says he is too busy… that may be true. That father might legitimately have a lot of work to do. But the daughter hears it as, “I’m not worth it.”
Women, don’t think that, “if God didn’t respond, its my fault.” That “it must be my fault” mentality has been there since the fall of man.
Behold, the Lord hath proclaimed unto the end of the world, Say ye to the daughter of Zion, Behold, thy salvation cometh; behold, his reward is with him, and his work before him.And they shall call them, The holy people, The redeemed of the Lord: and thou shalt be called, Sought out, A city not forsaken.
Zion represents God’s kingdom, the holy city and the church.
In v.12 God is speaking specifically of women- to the daughters of Zion. He calls them “sought out” and “not forsaken”.
God’s title for his daughters speaks to their need.